The top 6 reasons you shouldn’t:
1. It will make your next feel some kind of way
2. it brings up feelings that might anger or confuse you, or make you take your anger out on your next.
3. Haven’t you mindfucked yourself enough over them?
4. What you will allow will continue
5. Closure
6. What makes you so sure your even ready for a next?
7. Are you even ready to have sex with your next?
Read on if your looking forward to moving forward from your past, since you have reflected entirely too long enough about how long you paused before you decided to finally move the fuck forward.
It will make your next feel some kind of way
They could think you still want to be with that ex or miss them instead of looking towards moving forward. You keep talking about your ex it may make your next feel like… no matter how hard she/he works to create happiness in your relationship it may never be enough at times and could damage the relationship.
They also may make you next feel as if they are a rebound. Rebound defined as a noun, is an instance of increasing in value, amount, or strength after a previous decline. Now would you want your next to feel this way? Or maybe your realizing as your reading this article that your next is a rebound. Whatever the case may be, being aware of what you are saying and when you say it may unfortunately not only effect you, but your next and your ex and/or children if they are involved.
It brings up feelings that might anger or confuse you, or make you take your anger out on your next.
If your next relationship keeps getting angry or confused about the ex whenever she/he talks about them. Then they could unknowingly take there anger and/or confusion out on the person trying to show their feelings. Which in turn could make one of the people in the relationship think there isn’t anything they can do to help. Decide they don’t have time to wait around for someone who could have and may have been broken. Your nexts time is valuable, but more importantly your time is valuable. If your next isn’t celebrating you for who you were, who you are and whom you will be. Why are you even thinking about them being your next? If you have chosen a partner that doesn’t feel this way about you, you clearly still have more work to do on yourself and have no business in getting involved with a next at this point of your life anyways.
Haven’t you mindfucked yourself enough already?
I mean really! The late nights with no sleep. The crying. The complaining to friends and family. They are tired of hearing the same sad story over and over again. That my friends is called insanity. If we continue to repeat the same sad story that is all we will ever get. Step into your power and be who you have been wanting to be, instead of waiting for your ex to be who you needed.
What you will allow will continue
I believe in the law of attraction. If we talk about it we will bring about it. Haven’t you heard this before? If you are looking for answers and don’t know where to turn start asking yourself the questions in the mirror and listen to your inner voice and speak it out into the universe into existence. because after all what you seek is also seeking you.
Closure
What does that even look like?
It may be as simple as taking your wedding ring off and allowing the indentation from where your ring was to disappear.
Maybe you’ve tried all the self help books, listened to your friends advice, gone to seminars to hear from people who have moved forward before and you still feel like you are in pause mode.
Sometimes you just next to need to simply ask yourself what it is you want to do for the rest of your life and whom do you want to be? Once you realize your current situation is not your final destination is when the healing begins.
For me it looked like running, eating healthier, Not drinking alcohol, now water in a wine glass. No prescription drugs, now natural supplements meditating, writing, aromatherapy, surrounding myself with the right crystals and lots and lots of orgasms. But these things I mentioned for closure may not look like this to you. It looks different for everyone. We are all different. Not one of us the same, which is what God intended so we can learn and grow from one another.
What makes you so sure your even ready for a next?
Have you stopped texting your ex? Stopped waiting for the ding on Facebook from private messenger to go off thinking he/she may want to reach you there? Stopped thinking about the bad and remembering only the good times you had together because you simply don’t have time for any more bad energy and vibes in your life. Maybe just maybe a lesson learned?
Life is full of lessons. You go through what you go through in order to get to where you’re going next. Quite possibly maybe learning a lesson to be applied in your future or maybe you just have someone that is in need of help and you’re able to lend an ear or a comforting voice on the other end of the phone to help someone move forward because you’ve done it before. These are all things that need to be considered before you even consider a next.
Are you ready to have sex with your next?
Consider these questions to ask yourself. When is the last time you had an orgasm? Is the next a person you just want to have sex with or is he/she giving you butterflies? Did it take you awhile to get to your 1st kiss? Have you even checked the package they have to offer you to see if not only can he/she handle this, can you handle what he/she has to offer you? Find out whether they give oral sex or just like to receive. In my book 2 areas that not only need to be addressed need to be explored prior to moving forward with a next. The most important thing is that you know what you like and don’t like. This is your opportunity to get it right in the bedroom, or the car, or the vacation you may be taking in order to move your relationship to the next level.
With the above mentioned seven things to discuss with your next please consider that I am not a doctor nor am I a sex educator relationship specialist I am a work in progress. However, I have successfully moved forward from my ex to get to my next. We all know in order for us to move to the next level we have to surround ourselves with people who have already moved forward if you are talking to people that have not achieved what you want to you’re wasting your time and are not ready for your next.
In closing be sure to
#PauseReflectMoveForward
Because whom ever you choose to be your next will most likely not want to hear about your ex.
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